Three Powerful Habits of Highly Compassionate People

Written on 01/22/2023
Layne McDonald. Ph.D.

Dr. Layne McDonald

What does success have to do with being a compassionate person? The answer is a lot. When you think of someone sympathetic, do you associate it with someone with a martyr/victim personality? Most folks associate compassionate people with soft or weak.

However, compassionate people have fantastic superpowers – they know how to use compassion as a strength, not a weakness. Here are a few habits of highly compassionate people. 

They do not Take Things Personally.

People who emulate compassion for themselves and others have learned the art of not taking things personally. They know that when a mistake happens, that is simply a fact – an error occurred. They do not focus on how much of a failure they are or how stupid they feel. They merely focus on the problem and do not internalize it as being about themselves. This allows them to take the next step. 

The Move Forward Quickly and Rebound

Since compassionate people practice self-compassion as well as compassion for others, they can move forward quickly. They do not make problems, mistakes, or situations about them. 

There is less ruminating, worrying, and talking about problems. There is more of a focus on moving forward and creating creative solutions. 

They Come up with Solutions to Problems 

Rather than ruminating, compassionate people come up with creative solutions to complex problems. Empathetic people can feel what it is like for someone else to experience pain, almost as if they were the ones experiencing it. This offers them a fantastic vantage point for problem-solving.

A compassionate person can see and feel others' pain points. This offers them an advantage in helping others solve those problems. This one quality has many benefits:

  • In relationships, compassionate people can empathize with others and are better able to problem-solve. 
  • In business, compassionate people can feel their client’s pain points, communicate with empathy, and help them find creative solutions.
  • Socially, compassionate people invite others to be vulnerable due to their trustworthy and empathic qualities.
  • Compassionate people have a superpower in being able to listen effectively to what people are saying and even what they are holding back on, as well. 

Compassionate people have an uncanny sense of other people. This enables them to feel, see, and hear what others are experiencing. Compassion is an attractive quality. Compassionate people can draw near those who need their gifts, skills, and talents. This allows them to succeed and excel in personal relationships and business settings. 

The personality trait of being compassionate is not one of weakness. It is one of my strengths. Maintaining a balance between compassion and having firm boundaries is a winning combination. 

Where can you find ways to be more compassionate to yourself? Where can you find ways to be more sympathetic to others?