Seeing People, Not Tasks: Reflections from Last Sunday's Hallway

Something happened last Sunday that stopped me in my tracks.

I was walking down the hallway between services, clipboard in hand, mentally running through the volunteer schedule, the upcoming announcements, the three conversations I needed to have before the second service started. You know that mode. The "get it done" mode. The checklist brain.

And then I saw her.

A woman I'd never met before, standing near the welcome center, scanning the room like she was searching for something, or someone. Her body language said it all: uncertain, a little anxious, maybe even ready to leave.

In that moment, I had a choice. Keep walking and knock out my tasks, or stop and be present with a person.

I stopped.

And that three-minute conversation changed my entire perspective on what ministry actually looks like.

The Trap of Task-Mode Ministry

Here's the thing about serving in any capacity, whether you're a pastor, a greeter, a small group leader, or a volunteer on the tech team: there's always something to do. Always a checklist. Always a next step.

And those tasks matter. They really do. Systems keep things running. Schedules honor people's time. Preparation shows respect.

But somewhere along the way, it's easy to let the tasks become the mission instead of the means.

When we're "mind full" instead of mindful, we miss the very people we're supposed to be serving. We walk past the hurting. We rush through the hello. We treat the handshake like a formality instead of an invitation.

And the worst part? We don't even realize we're doing it.

What That Hallway Moment Taught Me

That woman I stopped to talk to? Turns out it was her first Sunday. She'd been going through a divorce, felt disconnected from her faith, and almost didn't walk through the doors that morning.

She told me later that when I stopped, looked her in the eye, and asked how she was doing, not as a greeting, but as a real question, she felt seen for the first time in months.

Not because I said anything profound. Not because I had answers. Simply because I was present.

That's the power of presence.

And here's what I want you to understand: you have that same power. Every single day. In the hallway. In the grocery store. At work. On a video call. In your own living room.

The ability to make someone feel seen isn't reserved for pastors or professionals. It's a gift you already carry.

Three Shifts That Help Us See People Over Tasks

If you're anything like me, shifting out of task-mode doesn't happen automatically. It takes intention. Here are three simple shifts that have helped me stay present with people, even on the busiest days.

1. Slow Your Pace Before You Arrive

Before I walk into church, a meeting, or even my own home, I take ten seconds to breathe and reset. I ask myself: Who might need me to be present today?

That small pause changes everything. It moves me from "what do I need to get done" to "who might I get to serve."

2. Make Eye Contact and Mean It

Eye contact isn't just polite, it's an act of dignity. When you look someone in the eye, you're saying, "You matter. I see you. You're not invisible."

Try this: next Sunday, when you shake someone's hand or say hello, hold their gaze for just one extra second. Don't rush to the next person. Let them feel the weight of being noticed.

3. Ask a Second Question

Most of us ask, "How are you?" But very few of us follow up. The second question is where connection happens.

• "How are you really doing this week?"

• "What's been on your mind lately?"

• "Is there anything I can pray about for you?"

These aren't complicated questions. But they communicate something profound: I'm not in a hurry. You're worth my time.

The Ministry of Being Fully There

Jesus was the master of presence. Think about it: He had a mission that literally saved the world, and yet He constantly stopped for the one.

The woman at the well. The man lowered through the roof. The children the disciples tried to shoo away.

He wasn't distracted by His divine to-do list. He was fully there with whoever was in front of Him.

That's the model. That's the invitation.

When we see people over tasks, we're not just being nice. We're reflecting the heart of God. We're saying, "You're not an interruption. You're the point."

A Challenge for This Week

I want to leave you with a simple challenge.

This week: whether it's at church, at work, or at home: pick one moment each day to be fully present with someone. Put the phone down. Close the laptop. Pause the mental checklist.

Look them in the eye. Ask a real question. Listen without planning your next sentence.

You might be surprised what happens. You might hear a story that changes you. You might be the only person who really saw them that day.

And honestly? That might be the most important thing you do all week.

Presence Is the New Productivity

Here's the truth I keep coming back to: the most productive thing I do as a pastor, a coach, and a leader isn't checking off my list. It's being present with people.

Tasks will always be there. Emails will pile up. Schedules will fill.

But the woman in the hallway? She might only give you one chance to see her.

Don't miss it.

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